Asking for Money instead of gifts

[Kat]

This can be a great way to make sure you have extra money to start your new life or for that beautiful honeymoon getaway. But is it a good idea to ask friends and family to give gifts of money?

[pheinbaugh2]

When I got married I mostly recieved cash and checks. We recieved over $4,000. It was great. It was a big help with the final payment for our honeymoon.

[luvbunnies42]

That would be great.Unless your family is like mine.My dad and stepmom gave us $20.00. My mom didn't do anything but show and give us a card.Half my family is the same.The only ones who really did anything was our grandparents.We asked for money.Since we were saving for a house. We needed extra money for a few things but we didn't even get much money at all.We also had no financial help once so ever for our wedding.

Those of you who have family that do help are truely lucky.

[Kat]

I have a very stingy family that most likely wouldn't help to save a life :-) but I know sometimes close friends try to go a bit overboard. I think in some cases maybe you should just say money or gifts with receipt lol though that may seem a bit rude.

[sunshine1]

I think it is very tacky to ask for money instead of gifts.  I usually do give money for a wedding gift, but if I was asked to give money  instead of a gift, I would be offended.


I think that the majority of the guests will end up giving money anyways.  Those who give gifts usually give them with meaning behind them. 

Seriously, I would be happy to have my friends and family there to celebrate with me and not expect them to give me a gift.

[flowerhorn]

It is sort of a norms here that people will give you cash for your wedding. Luckily, I don't have to ask for them from my guests which include friends, colleagues, relatives and clients. It really help a lot with the huge expenses that was incurred during the wedding.

[sunshine1]

It is typical here also that people give a gift of money.  I just don't agree that it is a good idea to ask for it.

[KrisN]

I am not sure on this one.  I know we all would rather have the money - so that we can start off right- to help with a down-payment on a house or to help with the honeymoon.  I think I would be offended if on the invitation it stated- no gifts- money please.

I was invited to 1 that asked for gift cards to a lumber yard- they were rebuilding their house.  I had no problem with this- as it was a suggestion.

[DianaR]

I think it is better to give money, actually.  That way the couple can decide how to spend it, instead of getting 15 toasters as wedding gifts.

I don't think I have ever felt insulted when a "give money" statement accompanied an invitation.  I admire practical people.

[flowerhorn]

I am not sure on this one.  I know we all would rather have the money - so that we can start off right- to help with a down-payment on a house or to help with the honeymoon.  I think I would be offended if on the invitation it stated- no gifts- money please.

I was invited to 1 that asked for gift cards to a lumber yard- they were rebuilding their house.  I had no problem with this- as it was a suggestion.

Demanding money or any specific items were  never a good idea to me even from close relatives unless they make an offer to you on the things that you want. I know it is your big events but we do have to keep in minds we have no rights to it at all.